Marriage

Original Date Typed: 12–15–21

Marriage is defined as, “a legally accepted relationship between two people in which they live together, or the official ceremony that results in this:” This is true in some aspects, but I want to offer a different perspective. I know that marriage is truly internal and no, this doesn’t mean I have a vendetta against ceremonies or traditional weddings. Marriage in greek is γάμος (gamos). The legal definition of marriage is stated as, “The legal union of a couple as spouses. The basic elements of a marriage are: (1) the parties’ legal ability to marry each other, (2) mutual consent of the parties, and (3) a marriage contract as required by law.” My bad for all the definitions but here’s the last one I found that was interesting, “gámos — properly, a wedding celebration; (figuratively) the Marriage Supper of the Lamb which begins with Christ-glorifying all the saints (OT, NT) at His return. This eschatological celebration is described in Mt 22:2–10 and Rev 19:7–9 — “and apparently occurs at the final day of the seven-year Tribulation” (G. Archer). For more discussion, see 4394/prophēteia (“prophecy) and 110/Athanasia (“the divine investiture of immortality”) at the return of Christ.”

The issue I have with having marriage defined this way is that it strips the value of real connection to the point marriage only sounds attractive if you want to combine finances, achieve status, or ultimately, to feel secure about one of the biggest fears humanity holds. In the simplest terms, marriage is the spiritual union of two individuals. The combination of two integrated souls is one of the most intimate connections one will experience in a lifetime. Intimate connections don’t have to be sexual but can come from a conversation from a trusted friend or cuddling close with someone, so they don’t have to be all physical or sexual. Having the capacity to hold a deep connection with someone long enough first requires you to have an intimate relationship with yourself which includes knowing Everything (with a capital E) about yourself. The purpose of this is to bring you into alignment with yourself. From another perspective, it could be argued that marriage (in its originality) is a spiritual practice of being at one with yourself. Opposites attract, twin flames, each of our differences make us unique, and so on highlights unity. Unity is highlighted through the Roman Empire, rain cycles, building a building, and keeping a plato house alive.

Its counterpart, division, comes right along with unity because you can’t have one without the other. When the sperm reaches the egg, it makes one cell which will continue to subdivide millions of times until it eventually becomes an embryo, then a fetus, then a baby out of the womb. Here is outlined the division of cells in order to bring unity, which is the baby. It doesn’t stop here because the baby stays unified with the family as it develops then it later grows up to leave the family (again, division) to later build connections and unite with others. Marriage works in a similar way in that the joining of two is a union but then there follows division in the form of going to work, emergency travel, break from bedroom fun, grocery shopping, and so on. Funny enough, the union comes back in the form of returning home or meeting up for some fun. What the hell does the relationship of union and division have to do with marriage? Beyond what I’ve already mentioned, it outlines the reality of what being in a long-term relationship with someone entails. An important note to keep in mind is that you’ll be having the individuals whole being with you for a long time which can be a benefit to your ultimate life path or remove you completely from it especially when the individual you’re considering to be with forever doesn’t acknowledge their issues or take any action towards fixing them.

Don’t get me wrong, the perfect person doesn’t exist and no one is crystal clear of having no problems but it’s your responsibility to take care of yourself so (imho) why would you choose to be with someone who doesn’t have any sense of self-care, or most importantly, Self-Love. Self-esteem is an overlooked factor in marriage but it could be what can make a marriage sour. For an individual to be content within themselves, acceptance of the devil within you must happen and you can use a self-esteem (which I’ll talk more about in the future) system to guide your competence and happiness. An example of this is using a 10–1 system, having 10 defined as God and 1 as Victim. Lastly, the same ideas I mentioned above apply to polyamorous relationships as well, or other types I’m not aware of. This works in those cases because it could be possible for spirit-to-spirit or soul-to-soul connections to be between multiple people but it usually gets complicated the more people you bring in. This may not be an issue for some but it can be for quite a lot of people. I’m not going to be able to get everything out in this one writing alone, but I want you to start to notice the internal. View how it plays out in this world and how you can use it to bring about your evolution or destruction. Love yourself always.

Notes-

We put our self-esteem on relationships which is harmful in the long term

Till expansion do us apart

A revelation into knowing that I was out of alignment with myself is when I tried to be poly but only ended up with one partner and they wanted all of me exclusively to them. Even when I was in a couple of poly relationships they still wanted me fully and yet there was this “trapped” feeling within me when I was in those types of relationships. This is an indicator of more internal work on my end and when I come across that someone I’ll make sure I truly commit

Commitment isn’t just physical

The idea of throwing a big ceremony to proclaim two souls coming together didn’t come about until the Church become government or they only existed not because the people being married truly loved themselves and each other but because of finances, land, transfer of power, or as a sex slave in some instances

“A similar situation occurred in the Book of Judges when the other tribes of Israel decimated the rebellious tribe of Benjamin in war. Their brother Israelites felt sorry for the few surviving Benjamite men and helped them capture girls from another tribe at a religious festival, in order for the Benjamites to produce children and continue to exist as a tribe.” (www.sagu.edu/thoughthub/the-history-of-marriage)

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